Real Life Q&A with Camy Tang

May 2005

Q: So how do I know if he likes me???

A: Well, you could just ask him . . .

Okay, okay, unless you're a masochist at heart that's not going to fly. Love is wonderful but Satan likes to use love for his own evil purposes. Ask yourself a few questions before asking this guy to the prom with you.

1) Does he share your faith?

This is the biggie. Not "Does he respect your faith?", not "Does he understand your faith?" Does he SHARE it? Because the funny thing about Christ is that people just don't GET Him unless they've EXPERIENCED Him. No matter how a person may understand your relationship with Christ, they really don't know what they're talking about unless they've experienced it for themselves.

It's kind of like skydiving. You can say you understand the rush and the fear, but you don't really unless you do it yourself.

Why is this important? Because if Christ is the most important person in your life and in his life, then you form a balanced triangle. If Christ is the most important person in your life but not his life, then it makes for a tug of war with you in the middle. While some girls like being fought over, I personally don't like being ripped into pieces.

2) Does he respect you as a person?

There are lots of charming guys but they're not necessarily NICE. Does he respect your ideas, your thoughts? Or does he kind of ignore you or tune you out? Pay attention to those little details about how he responds to you. They'll give you very clear insight into his character and how he thinks of you.

3) Do your family and friends approve of him?

Before you start thinking this is just archaic, stop and listen for a minute.

Your parents have been around a lot longer than you and can tell a real, honest young man from a fake one a lot faster than you. They're also not blinded by his stunning good looks and can give an objective opinion.

And realistically, it makes for a MUCH easier relationship when your parents are happy with the guy you're dating. You don't want a relationship to be marred by strife and stress. That's not very romantic.

Your close friends (should) have your best interests at heart and they're very intuitive. They can sense if a guy isn't good dating material. Also, the way a guy treats your friends is a good indication of character. If he flirts with your friends--Playboy alert! If he disses your friends--Control Freak alarm! You'd like a guy who will feel comfortable with your girlfriends, not one causing tension.

In sum:
I know, I know, not the answer you were looking for, right? Think on this: What God wants to have happen, will happen. Nothing can prevent it. What God doesn't want, won't happen, and nothing can prevent that, either. Trust God with your love life, too. Walk in His ways no matter what, and He'll bring about whatever is best for you. He cares for every aspect of your life, including your future boyfriend.